The Art of Making Duaa.
In the first part we discussed the power of duaa and how it can alter your fate just like drinking appeases your thirst.
But to every powerful and altering activity there's an art, an etiquette one should follow in order to get the most out of it.
So from Ibn al Quayyim's book The Illness & the Cure, here's the etiquette of making Duaa (supplication).
First thing to know is that duaa has with plague and misfortune 3 states:
- Either duaa is stronger and it pushes the misfortune away so it doesn't happen to you;
- OR the duaa is weaker so the misfortune gets to you, however the duaa can make it less painful;
- OR duaa and plague keep wrestling keeping each other away until the day of judgement;
Now on to how to make that duaa and mostly how to make it powerful and more likely to get answered:
1. Insisting & patience:
“The invocation of any one of you is granted [by Allah] as long as he does not show impatience by saying “I have invoked Allah but my request has not been answered.”
The prophet Muhammet PBUH [Sahih al-Bukhari, Muslim]
God loves the slave who doesn't loose hope and who keeps asking His Lord over and over relentlessly.
2. Make duaa in times of acceptance.
More times of acceptance and more tips on duaa in this link.
There are some physical guidelines like making wuduu, facing the quibla and raising your hands in supplication as the begger does to the giver for money or food.
4. Your state of mind and trust.
Now that you've sat down, there are also states of mind you should put yourself in: having certainty that God won't let your duaa go to waste if you do it the right way. Being in awareness of your need to and dependancy on Him and Him only. And also making the duaa with a sense of gratitude towards everything you have in life, no matter how little it may seem.
5. Praising your Lord.
And before you ask God what you want, it is only respectful and fair to praise your Lord with the names He named Himself with and with the blessings He has been granting you since the day you were born. Praise Him for He is worthy of all praise and worship.
6. Now ask for what you want.
You don't HAVE to do all this so that your duaa will be accepted but listen.
I know that all this may sound too formal and robotic a process but think about it, you are talking to the Lord of every alive thing in the whole universe and you are asking Him to change your life or make something happen without you putting laborious effort on it.
So isn't this worthy of showing respect and etiquette?
Plus, the process of making your wuduu and choosing the right time and praising your Lord before asking for what you want is all a great opportunity to get you ready, to establish familiarity and comfort between you and your Lord.
While making wuduu think about your trust in God's plan, think about your dependance on Him and about your vulnerability in front of His power and possession of ALL things.
On a final note here are some helpful and beautiful duaas that the prophet PBUH used to make in different situations. I found them on Tumblr and they are just nice to bookmark and go back to at every stage of life and in every state of mind.